Do you think Im being unfair??

I think you better do a number of things, first, learn to spell, and how to write a decent sentence complete with punctuation. Second, both you and your boy friends mom are acting like immature 3 year olds. Have you ever sat down and honestly thought about what the future is going to be like? This woman is your future husband's mother, he loves her and she is going to be a part of his life until she dies. This feud will continue to fester and turn UGLY, affecting you, him, your relationship, any children you might have etc, etc, etc. Life is too short to go through it hating someone and trying to "rub salt" into the wound every chance you get. You also forgot to mention why you were banned twice, I believe there is more to this than what you have stated, perhaps counseling might help?